There are a number of resources out there for your family, you are not alone! You should take some time to do your own personal research so you can feel comfortable in your journey moving forward. We are of course here to assist you with questions as you come across each step, but it is a big process and your overall experience will be better if you can set up some expectations for yourself along the way. Keep in mind that even though these are referenced here, they are simply a starting point and the information may not be current or accurate as of 2017. I have browsed these sights myself and tried to give you the more accurate websites, however, there will be pieces that are not current.
Here are a number of resources to check out, in no particular order (and of course not comprehensive):
• The Connected Child By Karyn B. Purvis, David R. Cross, Wendy Lyons Sunshine.
• In On It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You To Know About Adoption. A Guide for Relatives and Friends, by Elisabeth O’Toole.
• A Love Like No Other: Stories from Adoptive Parents, edited by Pamela Kruger and Jill Smolowe.
• Adoption Resource Book, by Lois Gilman.
• Communicating With the Adopted Child, by Dr. Miriam Komar.
• Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss, by Claudia L. Jewett.
• Making Sense of Adoption, by Lois R. Melina.
• Raising Adopted Children, by Lois R. Melina.